Hardened with Time

It takes time to harden resolve.  Plus a measure of self-confidence and strict logic.  It would otherwise be possible to construct what initially passes as strength upon nothing more than emotion (which is characteristically not an entirely reliable model for governing one’s behaviour).  The application of those three additives – time, self-confidence and logic – provides what I have learned to be substantive guidelines in the conduct of one’s affairs.  If I were to be completely honest I would have to include an element of instinct (but I believe that is more often than not merely a battle-scarred bi-product of the other factors).

The relevance of resolve in the pursuit of what one does in this life is that it affords the basis on which to build the superstructure.  Certainly it is quite possible to rebound from one position to another without any predetermined purpose or intent other than a temporary visceral response but the danger and risk in doing so is that it may result in a pattern of performance and comportment which is erratic and even meaningless.  The weight of one’s conduct is inevitably unavoidable; and if the load one is carrying is senseless or misaligned with what upon reflection one wants or expects, the moment of reckoning will come.

It is never too late to adopt resolve in what one does.  The goal is not only to make a decision but also to find a solution.  There are naturally endless instances in which that objective can prove useful; but the important thing to keep in mind is that no matter what one does resolve is both tactically significant and beneficial in the long run.  The feature of time is perhaps paramount because so often it is the only thing that ultimately lays bare the strengths and weaknesses of what one is doing.  It also affords a wider window of experience and perception which in turn allows for the fluctuations of ephemeral and whimsical sentiments.  To sustain any pattern of human conduct over a period of time requires more than concerted effort; it also requires favourable circumstances and what amounts to effortless habits. When the reflection is second nature it’s aspect is most clear.  Once the perception is clear the implementation of self-confidence and strict logic will bolster the solution of what is to be resolved.  It is rather like identifying the question then providing the answer.  Self-confidence is more than outright commitment to what one chooses to do.  It is assertiveness balanced by judgement.  And insofar as possible that assurance should be based on rationality, wisdom and common sense.

Like baking a cake one mustn’t only have the right ingredients. They must also be given time to set which in the context of human relationships frequently means to toughen. Once again it is the component of time which supplies both the patina and durability to the decision.